3 Questions that Resolve Stress Quickly
#1. The worst question:
For some reason, when I ask, “What’s the worst that could happen?” stress loses some of its bite.
You’re stressed about traffic, for example. What’s the worst that could happen? You’re late. You feel embarrassed. Maybe you lose a contract. But life goes on.
If stress goes up when you ask, “What’s the worst that could happen?” it’s time to change something.
Note: If the worst that could happen is life-threatening, then you should probably feel stress.
#2. The action question:
“What would you like to do about that?”
Sometimes you’re stressed, but you don’t really want to do anything about it. If that’s the case, the answer to stress is three words. Let it go.
If you’re wondering about letting something go, seek wisdom from higher ups.
Letting go is an iterative process. You let something go but it crawls back through an opened window. Simply repeat the process of letting it go when that happens.
Blow on your fingers and open your hand like releasing a butterfly. Whoosh, let it go.
If you want to do something about a stressor:
- Record a list of five simple things you can do today. Choose one and do it before lunch.
- Talk the situation over with a mentor, coach, or trusted friend.
- Avoid the tendency to expect others to solve your stress. That’s stressful.
#3. The perspective question:
“How much does this matter?”
Small issues seem ginormous through the lens of stress.
Tip: Small issues appear bigger than they really are when you look at them through tired eyes. Give yourself a break.
When small issues take up too much room in your life, reconnect with friends. Two or three strong relationships are light in the dark and gas in the tank.
What questions might resolve stress?
What, from your point of view, exacerbates stress?