The 4 Burdens of Leadership People Don’t Understand
Meaningful service and happy feelings don’t always go together.
A happy life is easier than carrying the burdens of leadership.
Some people get to the place where they want a simple job with no responsibility. They say, “I carried the burden of leadership long enough. Let someone else do it.”
Meaningful leadership and happy living aren’t the same thing.
If you want to feel happy all the time, don’t get into leadership.
“I arise in the morning torn between a desire to improve the world and a desire to enjoy the world. This makes it hard to plan the day.” E.B. White
Happiness happens in the moment. You feel happy having coffee with friends, eating a great meal, or finding a great buy on a new outfit.
Meaningful and happy aren’t the same.
The 4 burdens of leadership:
#1. Others don’t care as deeply as you.
You’re the one laying awake trying to solve problems, meet payroll, avoid layoffs, and maximize profits.
#2. Questioned motives.
You work to do the right thing. Some think you’re being selfish.
You work to be fair. Some think you play favorites.
#3. An otherish focus.
Average employees show up thinking about themselves. Leaders show up thinking about everyone else.
#4. Low appreciation.
I suppose everyone has moments when they feel underappreciated. Only a handful of people appreciate the burdens of leadership.
Heaven forbid you should share some of the burdens of leadership. People look at you and say, “That’s what you’re paid for.”
Meaning and happiness:
When you choose leadership sometimes you choose meaningful misery.
Meaningful service includes worry, stress, and anxiety that self-serving people don’t experience.
It doesn’t feel good to do hard things while you’re doing them. Fulfillment is often about the memory of doing hard, but meaningful things.
How are you navigating the tension between happiness and the burdens of leadership?