10 Dos and 7 Don’ts for Mentoring Millennials
Meaningful work is part of meaningful living for people ages 26 to 41*. Mentoring Millennials is changing lives, not simply equipping workers.
Characteristics of Millennials:
- Love meaningful work.
- Resist hierarchy and boundaries created by status.
- Value relationships more than position.
- Open to change. Adaptive in approach.
- Crave flexibility.
- Care about quality more than productivity.
- Yearn to learn and grow.
- Appreciate daily and weekly feedback. Don’t wait for annual reviews.
- Provide creative options. Love to share opinions.
- Place importance on collaboration.

Dos and don’ts for mentoring Millennials:
10 Dos:
- Speak the truth. Coddling promotes entitlement. Provide forward-facing feedback.
- Show respect. You aren’t better-than because you have experience.
- Honor talent and skills.
- Take the perspective of others. See the world through the lens of others when you want to influence others.
- Lighten up. Let yourself be happy. Laugh. Have fun.
- Provide space for commitments. You can’t coerce people into change. Those who aren’t committed find fault. Those who are committed find a way.
- Challenge thinking. Ignite imagination. Use variety.
- Notice and speak to their values.
- Leverage interest in teamwork. Mentoring a Millennial is opportunity to develop and strengthen collaboration.
- Connect on a personal level.
7 Don’ts:
- Meddle or micromanage.
- Rely on giving orders without reasons. Mentoring Millennials includes reasons and purpose.
- Overuse corrective feedback. Correct clearly but enable and equip more.
- Resent their need for time with you.
- Misjudge desire to advance for entitlement.
- Fear using technology. Mentoring Millennials online works for them.
- Talk down.
“A mentor is someone who sees more talent and ability within you, than you see in yourself, and helps bring it out of you.” Bob Proctor
What are you learning about mentoring?
Inspiration for this post comes from:
Rediscovering the Joy of Mentoring
Where Millennials end and Generation Z begins
10 Common Characteristics of the Millennial Generation
The Mentor’s Guide, by Zachary and Fain
*Age range is true in 2022.
Great Day! This is very true and some of these are not just for millennials, but good practice for every day life. Thank you for sharing these relevant Do’s and Don’ts. Have a wonderful holiday season!
Thanks Brandon. It seems mentoring begins with values and understanding people. 🙂 Happy Holidays
More and more I think Millennials need a guide on how to understand and work with GenX and accept their unique characteristics and work with the strengths of Gen Xers. It’s becoming more common that Millennials are managers of GenX and are having challenges understanding why they don’t think the same. Do’s and Don’ts from the other perspective would be interesting because they are not necessarily the opposite.
Thanks Mark. Wonderful observation. You’re point that we need to understand the people we mentor is necessary for effectiveness.
Thank you for these lists. It’s really important to understand generational differences and similarities.