The Leader Nobody Talks About: The One Who Cannot Stop
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We celebrate the leader who pushes through. We promote the one who outworks everyone. We tell stories about the executive who never quits.
We rarely talk about what that costs.
I was that leader. I ran one of the world’s most recognizable beauty brands across four continents. I was the one who stayed late, took the early call, never said no. From the outside, I looked like exactly what leadership is supposed to look like. Then I couldn’t get out of bed once I burned out.
Momentum is not the same as meaning.
Most leaders confuse the two. They move fast. They produce results. They carry last year’s unresolved tensions into next year’s planning session and wonder why the same problems keep appearing.
The missing practice is neither resilience nor a better morning routine. It is about being honest about where you have actually been before you commit to where you are going.
Three things high-performing leaders quietly avoid:
1. Look at what the year actually revealed. Not the results. The patterns.
What did this year show you about yourself as a leader that you have not yet named?
2. Release what no longer belongs. Most leaders carry commitments that made sense eighteen months ago. They keep them out of identity, not intention.
Ask yourself: Would I choose this again today?
3. Slow down before the next sprint. The leader who never stops never knows if the direction still makes sense.
The leader who cannot stop is not strong. They are afraid of what stillness might show them. That fear is worth examining. What it reveals is usually the most important leadership work that you have not yet done.
What has this year been trying to show you that you have been too busy to see?
Jobert E. Abueva is a global marketing and philanthropy executive, TEDx speaker, L&D keynote and workshop facilitator, and author of The Janus Plan: A No-Resolutions Path to Begin Your Year with Intention (Weaving Influence Press, September 2026). His writing has appeared in The New York Times, Fortune, and Entrepreneur. joberteabueva.com.
meaning creates momentum , momentum does not (always) create meaning ! It can be momentum in the wrong direction ! Old habbits die hard.
I would love a copy of the book.
I love this idea, too often we start the year with momentum but the meaning is lost.
I think that as a leader we feel a lot of pressure to always be producing something. Sometimes the important work comes in the slowing down and taking our time to plan and make sure things are done right. There’s nothing positive about rushing to make quick decisions or changes that fall apart because they weren’t planned out.
Great reminder for all of us!
Slowing down to take stock was an easy lesson to learn the first time I became a leader; it was painfully obvious I was not doing well. As I’ve become a better leader, it’s become harder to notice what the cost is. This reminds me of one of Dan’s recent posts in which he said, “Choose two signs that reveal your operating condition before results do.” That stuck with me.
Great article. It reminds us it’s important to periodically slow down and take a pulse on things. It also makes me think of the saying “work smarter not harder”!!
I will continue to give this thought as the year unfolds.
Great insight and reminder to slow down in our daily lives and look at what is happening
It is important to recognize what we need to let go of. Holding on to things that no longer have much use is a waste of capacity, capacity to do greater more important things.
This line stuck with me: “The leader who never stops never knows if the direction still makes sense”. A leader is responsible to ensure the direction of the organization is toward the shared vision. This can’t happen without times of reflection.
Embracing what was and seeking for what could be. Don’t strip yourself of the commitment, understand why you made the commitment at the time to help yourself move toward the next step.
Its funny that this appeared at this time. I did this exact thing about two months ago. I have re-evaluated a lot of decisions that I have made in the past and moved forward with new ideas and ways of dealing with everyday problems. Thank you for the reminder.
Great 100,000-foot view of what I should do to stay relevant in my current role. As I read, I see parallels with my own performance mentality, which often leads to burnout. Instead of identifying projects that are no longer relevant to the current state, I keep them in my to-dos, which only drains energy from new, market-relevant directives. Thank you for the insight!
I have found that each promotion has delivered more responsibility (work), longer days (and weekends), and an exponential increase in the amount of email that I must manage. I can retire in 7 years, but I am not sure I can make it that long given the non-stop sprint and hamster wheel life that my current position demands. I know there is no silver bullet but I am thankful that those that have gone before us can offer some insight to survive executive positions. I look forward to reading this book.
I would love to read this book and bring it to my growth tribe at work. Does it come with a workbook?
This book sounds quite interesting.
I’ve been working on purpose alignment. While this doesn’t help manage the every rising small fires it does help open time to step away. Leadership is also being comfortable with leaving loose ends – not always having to fix the problem or complete the task that moment.
Leader in progress.
“take time to smell the roses” or ” you can’t see the forest from the trees” seems to be the message I see here. But I’m sure I’m just missing it entirely. I need to read this book to see what I’m clearly missing.