Stop Developing Your Leadership
“Developing your leadership” sounds grand. It’s useless.
You can’t practice “leadership.” You can practice specific skills.
Develop Skills, Not Leadership
Suppose you’re an impatient listener. Don’t set a goal to “become a better listener.”
Choose a specific behavior. For example: Ask one follow-up question before giving your opinion.
Practice it in every one-on-one this week. Notice when you forget. Seek feedback. Try again.
Developing Your Leadership – Shrink the Target
Instead of developing communication, practice specific communication skills.
- Explain a decision in two minutes.
- Give corrective feedback without softening the message.
- End meetings with clear commitments.
- Pause three seconds after asking a question.
- Recognize one useful contribution every day.
You can’t practice a generality.
Practice What Feels Awkward
Improvement happens at the edge of ability.
Don’t repeatedly do what feels natural. Practicing comfortable conversations won’t make you better at difficult conversations.
If you dominate meetings, practice inviting others to talk.
If you avoid decisions, set a decision deadline.
- Choose one behavior.
- Practice deliberately.
- Get feedback.
- Adjust.
- Repeat.
- Choose another skill.
Stop developing your leadership. Start developing leadership skills.
What specific leadership skill could you practice this week?
7 Ways to Master the Most Important Leadership Skill – Leadership Freak
This post was inspired by Peak: Secrets from the New Science of Expertise, by Anders Ericsson and Robert Pool.




“Ask one follow-up question before giving your opinion.” – This question is good for more than impatience. Often many leaders already have formed a solution to offer (myself included) which can seem similar to impatience. It would be good to have a list on hand with a variety of follow up questions or just to practice so it is muscle memory when it happens.
Aim big, miss big. I like it.