When everyone talks to be understood, no one gets what they want.
In personal communication we feel the need to express ourselves.
The key to effective communication is, “Seek first to understand, then to be understood.” —Stephen R. Covey
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people persecute joy out of life. How many people are busy and sad? How many are miserable while seeking the good life? Part of the problem is daily conversations that oppress joy.
When life is miserable, words have something to do with it.
Do you know the one rule for words?
Most people aren’t as interesting as they think.
There are three reasons leaders are boring communicators. They are infatuated with their own ideas. They are explaining how to do someone’s job. Or they are trying to prove their competence. In the most toxic cases, all three are true.
You don’t have to be charismatic, just less dull.
You communicate with power when you speak to universal concerns.
Say words people need to hear, not things you need to say.
Don’t fall in love with telling people what to do.
Speak to nine primal questions. Anything you say to address the nine primal concerns elevates your relevance.
Here’s how…
I learned a powerful model I’m sharing today.
Learn to notice the trajectory of conversations.
More important, learn to open a door toward the intentional future.
Words are rudders. Skillful leaders understand the trajectory of conversations.
A mind is a terrible thing to spew when it’s a bubbling cauldron of brilliance. Practice strategic silence rather than blinding with faux wisdom.
Conformity disempowers. Strategic silence empowers.
The more certain you feel the more likely strategic silence is protection.
Practice strategic silence, not disengagement.
