Category Archive: Gossip

The Stories We Tell Ourselves

People judge you by the story they tell themselves about you. The most powerful words we hear are the stories we tell to ourselves. Potential stories: Normally I greet people warmly, with a… Continue reading

The Danger of Public Criticism and the Power of Social Confirmation

I was greeting audience members before a presentation when one asked, “What makes you qualified to give this presentation?” “Thanks for asking,” is my typical response when I need a second to think.… Continue reading

10 Ways to Spot Toxic Employees

10 ways to spot toxic employees: Team members are afraid of toxic employees. Ask a toxic person what they’re getting done and they’ll tell you what they plan to get done. Conversations have… Continue reading

I Had a Boss Who Poisoned Relationships

Every word you say to yourself and others matters. Gossiping manager: I had a boss who poisoned relationships. She bad-mouthed support staff. My mirror neurons made it natural to agree. Gossip ignites tension.… Continue reading

7 Ways to Stop Gossip Vampires

Few leaders do anything about gossip vampires. Gossip is a tool for personal advantage, self-justification, and helpless complaint. If relationships produce results, gossip is expensive. Gossip vampires: Suck the life out of relationships.… Continue reading

7 Ways to Gossip Like a Leader

Malicious gossip builds silos and weakens relationships. There’s research that says gossip has a good side. But I’ve heard people crying in their cubicles because of rumors. Teams move in the direction of… Continue reading