Category Archive: Leading

How to Focus on the Future while Evaluating the Past

Image source Stop saying “should have,” after projects are completed. Start saying “next time.” The former is backward-facing and the latter is forward-facing. Should have’s correct the past; something impossible to do. When… Continue reading

How to Overcome People Pleasing

(Originally posted October 10, 2010) Wanting another’s approval is healthy. Needing it is sick. You can’t please all the people even some of the time. “The disease to please,” as psychologist Harriet Braiker… Continue reading

You’re more prepared than you think

Image source Changing the outside world begins with changes inside you. We change before we change others. Sometimes we change from the outside-in. Once, when I was a young man, I was fired.… Continue reading

How to Keep Elephants out of the Hall

Image source There’s a bull elephant in the hall. He first appeared as a nit but problems almost always grow. Everyone sees the problem but no one’s talking. Successful leaders point out the… Continue reading

Four Stages to Greatness

Image source Leading is serving; serving is living. Serving is the path to greatness; serving is greatness. You are great when you serve. Stage one: Serve yourself. Learn that you are important as… Continue reading

How to Solve “With” not “For”

Struggles strengthen; don’t solve stresses for others – solve stresses with others. Yesterday I posted, “22 Ways to Dramatically Increase Your Influence.” I’m expanding on number seven. With not for: When your team’s winning, stay… Continue reading