I recently encouraged a leader to seek advice from a member of her board. She said that she wanted to talk to him but was concerned about perception. Would he think she’s weak?
I explained that he will think you’re smart if you do it skillfully.
Successful leaders seek wisdom from others.
Turbulence isn’t going away. It often increases.
Crap is fertilizer. Post-traumatic growth is the norm.
About 7 in 100 people experience post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) in their lifetime.
Approximately 50 to 66 in 100 people experience post-traumatic growth (PTG).
Here’s how to ask questions that make PTG likely.
Power blinds. Some become the jerk boss they never intended.
The pressures of leading push people toward destructive behaviors. Some people become the jerk boss they never intended.
“Bosses don’t become jerks overnight because they were awarded a fancy title.” Sabina Nawaz
“The quality of your conversations is determined by the quality of your questions.” David Brooks
Here are four things to ask about when you want have a great conversation.
Everything that feels right isn’t. Blunk skull behaviors are done sincerely.
Effort isn’t magic.
Pedaling faster doesn’t help when the chain is broken.
I’ve talked with many leaders who were confused, angry, and ready to quit. Sometimes I say, “Well, isn’t this exciting.” My smile confuses them. Some disagree. Others think I don’t get it.
Leaders run toward the battle, not away.
Perceived capacity governs response.
