Tag Archive: Feedback

When Silence is Painful, Not Golden

Failure to bring up disappointing performance is cruel, not compassionate. Apart from intervention, negative trajectory accelerates.   When silence is painful, not golden: Silence when performance disappoints prolongs pain, increases stress, and affirms… Continue reading

7 Ways to Deal with the Lies Leaders Tell Themselves

When you screw up, someone didn’t follow through. When others screw up, they procrastinated. It’s not if, but how you lie to yourself. You fail because of circumstances. Others fail because of character.*… Continue reading

How to be the Leader who Gets Novices to Step Up

Challenge people to do things they never thought they could do. #1. Relationship: Caring relationship is the environment of growth. Find things to like about the people around you. Don’t let dissatisfaction with… Continue reading

Solution Saturday: Crying, Anger, and Gossip

Dear Dan, How do you give feedback and not be offensive? There are some people I work with who would gladly take on feedback. Others would take the same feedback and then create… Continue reading

10 Simple Strategies to Improve Performance Conversations and Change Trajectory

Many teams are afraid to discuss the source of success – performance. 10 reasons performance conversations suck: The dynamic is from superior to inferior, rather than partnership.  One person pulls the rope in… Continue reading

The Three-Legged Stool of Effective Performance Conversations

If half-truths are lies, being nice makes us liars. The need to be nice is about: Preventing offense. Keeping the peace. Protecting status. Being liked. Being too nice often includes shading the truth. Too nice:… Continue reading