Why Feelings Matter From Someone Who Thought They Didn’t

Feelings matter more today than they did when I was young. I’m old school. It doesn’t matter how you feel. You show up and do the work. Being brought up on a dairy… Continue reading

One Simple Question Anyone Can Ask That Produces a Moment of Clarity

Confusion is about fear and doubt, not intelligence. Self-doubt makes smart people dumb.  Doubt and fear are the parents of delay and confusion. Self-doubt rejects options and makes decisions like a snail, if at… Continue reading

No One Claps When You Go to the Bathroom By Yourself

Parents go nuts when toddlers learn to use the potty. Twenty years later, no one claps when you go to the bathroom by yourself.  Gratitude looks for extraordinary and goes blind to the ordinary.… Continue reading

Ducks to Monkeys

It takes largeness of spirit to value ducks when you’re a monkey. Foolish monkeys complain about ducks. Wise monkeys maximize their potential. Persistent disapproval de-energizes ducks. Learn how to approve of ducks even while… Continue reading

The Question I Never Asked But Should Have

A coaching client has been learning to ask quality questions. She shared one with me that blew me away. She asked a manager, “What questions are you asking your team?” The manager said,… Continue reading

How Leaders Change People By Simply Seeing Them

One summer, years ago, my wife and I stopped yelling at each other when we noticed the windows were up. People change when someone’s watching or listening. I read that people are more… Continue reading