How to Judge Others
You can’t do difficult things fast. If you want to go fast, do something easy. The need for speed requires repetition, simplicity, and ease. Fast for you – slow for others: Arrogance looks… Continue reading
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How to Find the Power to Step into Anxiety
Confidence isn’t the absence of anxiety. Confidence is the ability to step into anxiety and see what good might result. Where does confidence to face anxiety come from? Anxiety: You’re anxious when you… Continue reading
7 Rules for Giving Feedback to the Boss and Surviving to Tell About It
Few things in organizational life are more dangerous than speaking truth to power. But isolated leaders become arrogant, indulgent, and authoritarian. Incompetent leaders count on reluctance to maintain their position and power. As… Continue reading
Surgery Without Anesthesia
“My husband says a conversation with Dan is like surgery without anesthesia.” (During a birthday party for a long-time coaching client.) People don’t tell leaders the truth. They imagine what you want to… Continue reading
Partly Cloudy or Partly Sunny – How to Energize Others
You see yourself as sunny. Others think you’re cloudy. The way you occur to others and the way you perceive yourself are two different things. When you look at the sky: According to… Continue reading
Creating a Moment of Enlightenment that Energizes and Liberates
Some people just don’t get it. You’re trying to help someone see the light, but nothing changes. Enlightenment happens when we see ourselves in a new light – when we rethink beliefs and… Continue reading