4 Ways to Energize Through Coaching
Telling-leaders drain and disengage. Coaching-leaders energize.
Energize through coaching:
#1. Assume others know:
Others don’t know everything, but they know something.
- What do you know about this situation?
- What’s important about this situation?
- Where does your thinking go next?
- What opportunities or solutions come to mind?
- What else have you thought about?
- What other factors could be considered?
- Who else might have knowledge or experience in this area?
Telling-leaders drain by:
- Pretending to listen and collaborate.
- Moving forward without seeking input.
- Withholding or rejecting feedback.
- Feeling surprise at the confusion of others.
- Wondering why everyone doesn’t automatically fall in line.
Bonus: Telling-leaders drain by propagating the charade that they always know.
#2. Ask, “How would you like to contribute?”
Telling-leaders create environments where people end up saying, “I was waiting for you to tell me what to do.”
Coaching-leaders engage and energize by asking, “How would you like to contribute?”
Energized people get more done.
#3. Avoid problem-centric questions:
Jump to solutions. Don’t waste time on figuring out why problems happened.
It’s fascinating, but futile, to explore why you’re upset with a customer or colleague. Knowing why something happened doesn’t solve it.
“What would you like to do next time,” moves people forward better than, “Why did this happen.”
#4. Ask solution-centric questions:
Don’t waste time searching for causes.
Knowing the cause of a problem isn’t a solution. “Solutions” solve problems.
- What’s working well?
- How might you learn from what’s working?
- What’s happening when the problem is not present?
- How can we do more of that?
- How have you solved similar challenges?
Solutions energize; problems drain.
Coaching-leaders seek solutions with/from others. Telling-leaders live with the stress of needing to know all the answers.
How might coaching-leaders engage and energize others?
*This post is inspired by, “Coaching for Engagement.”
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