Bank Robbers Who Make Deposits

Rural drivers are dangerous. We own both sides of the road. Chances of meeting a driver coming the other direction are low.

I’m more likely to meet a deer than a car when I drive home from a meeting. If there’s a car in front of me, it’s rush hour.

Stop signs are optional in the country.

Compensating for bad:

Sometimes I drive through intersections without slowing down. But usually I employ the slow-and-go method.

I compensate for bad driving habits by occasionally giving my wife a head-jerking stop. She doesn’t expect me to stop. When I do, it’s a surprise.

After stopping, I sit for a few seconds, even though no cars are in sight.

I’m “making up for” all my violations. I’m like a bank robber who occasionally makes a deposit.

Compensating for habitual bad isn’t effective.

Try saying, “But I stopped really good last time,” to the police officer.

Eliminate the bad:

Since bad is stronger than good, eliminating bad is powerful.

What bad things does your team need to stop doing?

What bad leadership habit have you drifted into?

Adding good:

It’s helpful to stop doing bad, but there’s more. For example, you aren’t encouraging people when you hold back an insult. (Even if you do pat yourself on the back.)

Replace an insult with gratitude. That’s encouraging.

You might feel like you’re kind when you don’t yell, but you’re only halfway there.

A small shift:

When we get away with bad habits, we begin to think they’re OK, maybe useful. But the truth is people are tolerating you.

Dangerous habits:

  1. Hiding in your office.
  2. Not saying please. (I don’t mind asking people to do things. But “please” sticks in my throat.)
  3. Frowning. You frown way more than you should.
  4. Not asking questions.

What bad leadership habits are easy to slip into?

What small shift might help leaders get back on track?