It’s dangerous to evaluate others and affirm yourself. Self-affirmation – apart from self-evaluation – is the beginning of self-deception and the end of self-development. It’s perverse to give yourself a hand and give… Continue reading
Dear Dan, I work late because I’m being helpful to people on my team. How can I stop helping too much? Sincerely, Too Helpful (Question after a recent presentation.) Dear Too, The desire… Continue reading
You’re not a control freak if you send back a rare steak when you ordered medium. #1. You’re not a control freak if you have high standards for yourself and others. But you’re… Continue reading
A credibility gap ends influence and limits impact. All that’s left – once credibility is lost – is the use of position and power. According to Jim Kouzes and Barry Posner The Five… Continue reading
The deadliest person on your team is a high performing toxic person. Toxic people: Brag about using power and manipulation to get what they want out of others. Blame you when they offend… Continue reading
Feedback is wasted on Mr. Defensive. He closes his mind to anything that feels threatening. The chronically defensive can’t benefit from helpful suggestions or constructive feedback. Strategies of Mr. Defensive: The moment you… Continue reading
