The #1 Thing Bad Bosses Teach Good People

A bad boss is a blindfolded monkey splashing poison. If you haven’t had a bad boss, you probably will. Blindfolded moneys are lethal.

Bad bosses:

  1. Stifle creativity.
  2. Increase stress at work.
  3. Undermine team confidence.
  4. Lower morale.
  5. Cause confusion.
  6. Pit employees against each other.
  7. Damage company reputation.
  8. Lose good people.
  9. Poison relationships.
  10. Take credit.
  11. Increase burnout.
  12. Use blame to prop up their ego.

The above items are painful pebbles on a mountain compared to the worst thing toxic bosses do.

Bad bosses make you forget who you are.

A bad boss is a blindfolded monkey splashing poison. Image of a splash.

The #1 Thing a Bad Boss Teaches Good People:

Toxic bosses make you wonder, “Why bother?” You want to quit, but you keep going. One day you discover something more energizing than pleasing others.

First you begin pleasing parents, then it’s teachers, friends, and loves, later it’s bosses. People-pleasing turns you to congealed honey. Toxic bosses free you from people pleasing. You don’t care what they think. You learn…

You do what you do because it’s who you are.

You reach high because it’s in your heart.

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The journey:

The journey of life is becoming who God made you to be – so you can share the honey.

Learning to become yourself warms life. You find joy in pouring yourself out. The Skin Horse explains the process:

“It doesn’t happen all at once,” said the Skin Horse. “You become. It takes a long time. That’s why it doesn’t happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby.”

Toxic bosses teach you to become yourself.

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Note: The sentence, “Bad bosses make you forget who you are,” troubles me because it gives bosses too much power. No one can make you forget. It’s better to say they create environments where people forget who they are, but that feels weak. I went with the punch.