Yes is Better Than No

The law of holes, “When you find yourself in a hole, stop digging.”

No is a hole. Yes is a door.

No is hole. Yes is a door. Image of an open door.

5 ways to live into yes:

#1. Focus on what you have instead of what you don’t have.

  1. Progress is built on using what you have.
  2. Current strengths are the foundation of future abilities.

Don’t worry about what others have. Use what you have.

Show up saying, “I see what we don’t have. What do we have?”

#2. Live beyond, “I can’t do that.”

  1. Stop comparing yourself with the achievements of others. It’s self-defeating.
  2. Set lower goals. Find something that feels achievable if you’re a can’t-do-person. Try doing one push-up, for example.

Show up asking, “What’s the easiest thing to do next?”

#3. Shift from limits to opportunities.

  1. Practice gratitude.
  2. Help someone else. There’s always a place for someone who shows up to serve.
  3. Notice negative self-talk.

Show up saying, “I see what we can’t do. What can we do?”

Take the next step. Image of a person on a cable stairway over a valley.

#4. Adopt a “next-step” approach.

  1. Turn to the present. Don’t look up the hill. Take the next step.
  2. Think about ability, not weakness.
  3. Put energy into action. Jettison rumination.
  4. Visualize the next step. Let go your need to win.

Just take the next step. Passivity makes us pathetic.

Show up asking, “What’s the next step?”

#5. Notice something that’s right.

  1. Reflect on what is right more frequently than wallowing in what is wrong.
  2. Go on a what’s-working-walkabout.  

Show up to ask, “What’s working?”

No is a necessary part of life. How can we live into yes?

Still curious:

The BIG YES Accelerates Leadership

The Power to Say No

Law of holes – Wikipedia