Bumblehoof: Proving Yourself

“Success is proving you’re better than others.” Bob Bumblehoof

Bumblehoof charges into Monday’s staff meeting ready to save the day. “Team,” he declares, “I will now demonstrate what real leadership looks like. Watch and learn!”

“Ira Intern, get up and present your project.”

Ira begins explaining how to use AI in daily work. Bob interrupts after waiting patiently for 30 seconds, “AI is for lazy people. We don’t do that here. Next.”

Mark, the manager of sales, begins explaining a client concern. Bob interrupts, “This is too important to leave with you. I’ll handle this personally! Next.”

Bumblehoof believes “modeling the way” means highlighting his sparkling splendiforousness. His calendar overflows with urgent hero work.

Proving:

Fearful leaders love proving their value. They elevate themselves by adding drama to minor issues. A “crisis” is their stage to…

• Take over.
• Avoid admitting mistakes.
• Keep others on their heels.
• Distract people from seeing incompetence.
• Sidestep real issues.
• Blame-shift.

Bob Bumblehoof wears armor because he’s overcompensating.

How to Avoid the Bumblehoof-Proving Syndrome:

Leaders celebrate when others shine, especially when they could shine brighter. When people are improving, don’t swoop in with small improvements.

Overshadowing others blinds them to their own potential.

Choose curiosity over bluster. Insecure leaders rush to give answers. They believe “knowing” proves worth.

Your team respects you when you listen calmly.

Confident leaders ask questions.

• What have you tried?
• How did it work?
• What would it look like if things were going perfectly?
• What’s one thing you could do to improve this situation?

Skillful leaders are curious, humble, and courageous. Accept where you are. Use what you have to step forward. Don’t let what you can’t do stop you from doing what you can.

How would you spot a leader who doesn’t engage in proving behaviors?

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Read: The Vagrant: The Inner Journey of Leadership.

One reader writes: “I just wanted to take a moment to tell you how deeply The Vagrant moved me. It’s rare to find a story that speaks to both the heart and the soul the way yours does. As I followed Bob’s journey, I found myself reflecting on the moments when life strips us bare and forces us to face who we really are beneath all the titles and ambitions.”