Category Archive: Influence

The 4 Unbreakable Rules of Giving Advice that People Actually Respect

Most advice-givers should be avoided. You’re good at telling people what you think. But you’re confused if you think giving advice is the same as telling people what you think. Skillful advice-givers accelerate… Continue reading

How to be a Leader People Like – Without being Needy

Leaders who need to be liked are lawn chairs blown in hurricanes. Leaders who don’t care if they’re liked are jerk-holes. We resist leaders we don’t like – but if we like each… Continue reading

An Actionable Approach to Tough Issues Even Timid Leaders can Employ

The worst agonies of leadership are self-inflicted. Poor results and toxic environments are often the result of misplaced tolerance. What happens when you avoid tough issues: #1. Unintentional affirmation of negative behaviors. Silent… Continue reading

How the Republican Committee Ticked Me Off – But the Issue wasn’t Them

Some conversations invigorate – others exasperate. The difference is aspiration, values, and talent. Years ago, the Republican Committee* asked, “If we put you forward for this elected office, what will you do for… Continue reading

How any Manager can Increase Influence and Fuel Peak Performance

The c-suite has little day-to-day impact on the productivity of remote workers. “Remote worker’s productivity depends on one role – the manager.” Gallup Remote work isn’t going away. “Our best estimate is that… Continue reading

How to Stop Asking, “How are You?” and Create Real Conversation

Stop asking stupid questions like: How are you? How are you doing? How are you feeling? You already know how people are doing. The future feels like mushy spaghetti. Answers to, “How are… Continue reading