Category Archive: Influence

How We Really Learn to Lead

You learn to lead the same way babies learn to walk, by observation, training, and experimentation. Development in any arena begins by seeing what’s possible. Moms and dads show children what’s possible. Michael… Continue reading

Transparency and Vulnerability – 4 Ways to Let Yourself be Seen without Oversharing

You might enjoy anonymity and mask-wearing. But high-impact leaders let themselves be seen. Letting yourself be seen might be one of the hardest things you do. I remember hearing Patrick Lencioni say, “I… Continue reading

7 Ways Manipulators Get What They Want

We passively accept the manipulative lies advertisers use to get our money. “Open a Coke, open happiness.” “Wheaties, breakfast of champions.” “All Natural … All Burger” Carl’s Jr. with a naked woman eating… Continue reading

Influence is Easy – Just Drop a Few Hints

A bear demolished our bird feeders. Plastic tubes and suet cages offer little resistance. Sunflower seeds and suet are easy prey. My wife ordered new tubes and safely stored all the metal parts… Continue reading

The 4 Unbreakable Rules of Giving Advice that People Actually Respect

Most advice-givers should be avoided. You’re good at telling people what you think. But you’re confused if you think giving advice is the same as telling people what you think. Skillful advice-givers accelerate… Continue reading

How to be a Leader People Like – Without being Needy

Leaders who need to be liked are lawn chairs blown in hurricanes. Leaders who don’t care if they’re liked are jerk-holes. We resist leaders we don’t like – but if we like each… Continue reading