Leading feels like bullfighting. You don’t control the bull. You control the cape.
Don’t ignore the bull. Respond to it.
Focus energy on responses. For example, you can’t control people. Control how you respond to them.
You can’t control interruptions. Determine how long they last.
How to control the cape…
Leaders don’t know they intimidate, frustrate, and de-energize people. Invisible impact holds leaders back.
Inside you care. On the outside you’re scary.
You don’t remember the pressure of pleasing the boss. You don’t realize casual comments feel like expectations. Silence feels like disapproval.
Three questions reveal how people feel when you walk away?
Energy determines who leads, not titles. Positive energy multiplies impact.
Multipliers breathe life into people.
Bad is 5X stronger than good. One draining habit cancels five encouraging ones. Eliminate what drains before adding what lifts.
Socrates said, “The unexamined life is not worth living.”
Click for tools to become a multiplier.
Authority builds barriers between people. You overcome by showing interest.
The person with power is responsible to move first.
If you aspire to lead, show interest.
Here’s how…
I brought home a new Jeep Wrangler for a weekend test drive.
We have a six-foot grassy bank leading up to our lawn. I thought, “Perfect. Let’s see if this baby can climb!”
I engaged the 4-wheel drive and hit the bank with confidence.
This is what happened next. Lessons from ruts.
Change minds by understanding how people think. It’s not about your idea. It’s about the way they think.
The heart of influence is connection, not force.
Influence by Shifting from “Should” to “Could”
Influence by Crafting Solutions Together
Change Minds by Connecting with Their Reality
