Stop making excuses.
Stop justifying.
Stop proving you’re right.
Stop proving they’re wrong.
Ask for what you want.
Many requests come from dissatisfaction. Stop complaining before asking for something. You can’t antagonize and influence at the same time.
A complaint is not a request.
Ask for what you want…
A rose by any other name would smell as sweet, works for roses, not people. People don’t like “any other name.” They like their own. I’m terrible with names. It might be genetic. I… Continue reading
The purpose of transparency is to be seen for who you are. It’s awkward when your inner critic berates you. It’s difficult for those seduced by power and authority. It’s impossible when leaders lack self-awareness.
Transparency is noble in concept but tricky in practice.
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Everyone asks, “How can I get the boss on my side?” It’s the wrong question.
Questions have direction. Where are your questions taking you?
Here are two questions your boss needs to hear.
Curiosity is influential.
The right to be heard is earned. Forget leading when no one is listening.
You earn the right to be heard with your ears.
You earn the right to be heard by saying something worth hearing.
Gain a reputation for wisdom. Here’s how…
You can’t influence people who are protecting themselves from you.
Ethical influence requires free response. You can’t pressure someone into being influenced.
Everything you do that causes people to protect themselves corrodes influence.
This post explains 5 ways leaders corrode their influence and 5 ways leaders enable responsiveness.
