Category Archive: Saying No

SATURDAY SAGE: 7 Good Things About Skillful Quitting

Quitting is pathetic, impulsive, and caving in. It results in a storm of defeat.  Or at least that’s what people think.  Familiar stories: An eleven-year-throws his ball glove on the ground, “I quit”.… Continue reading

How to Procrastinate Successfully and Defeat Pointless Procrastination

“In a prosperous society most misery is self-inflicted.” George Ainslie* Squirrel chasing, avoiding discomfort, perfectionism, and waiting to the last minute are symptoms self-inflicted misery. Procrastinators make on average $15,000 less than non-procrastinators.… Continue reading

6 Relationships that Cause you to Overcommit

I woke up late this morning. It caused me to reflect on the reason I get up in the first place. Commitments came to mind. Every commitment is a limitation. Sleeping late and… Continue reading

The Ability to Say NO is the Power to do What Matters

You can’t say YES to everything and excel at anything. Most people don’t enjoy saying NO to their boss, colleagues, or employees. But a world without ‘NO’ is filled with distraction, chaos, frustration,… Continue reading

Getting a Grip When Work is Nuts Pt. 1

We have to do something about crazy schedules! But please don’t give us something else to do. Anyone who tries to work at 100% capacity for 100% of the time will go nuts!… Continue reading

Dear Dan: I Can’t Stop Helping People

Dear Dan, I work late because I’m being helpful to people on my team. How can I stop helping too much? Sincerely, Too Helpful (Question after a recent presentation.) Dear Too, The desire… Continue reading