Disarm Defensive People
Defensive people resist growth. They deny, deflect, and justify.
Helpers receive insults. Leaders suffer disappointment.
Defensiveness protects self-image. Arguments threaten it.
How to Disarm Defensive People
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Don’t Coach the Dead
Everyone has potential. But you don’t run a rescue mission. Forget about coaching the incompetent. Train them.
The more capable the person, the more valuable development.
Elite performers in every sector have coaches.
Coaching won’t compensate for lack of aspiration or talent.
How to spot the coachable?
A Guide to Lousy Coaching
Unintentional sabotage is still destructive. Lousy coaching personalities create confusion during development conversations. They use words like “coaching” but really mean instructing.
Don’t be:
Fix-It Freddy
Leaky Linda
Vague-asaurus Rex
Support-Me-Not Susan
Bad coaching isn’t a mistake. It’s a catastrophe.
Included here are 5 ways to improve your coaching.
The Day I Gave My Wife Instruction
Yesterday my wife said, “You drive weird.” In a professorial tone, I told her, “That’s judging, not observing.” She got instruction she didn’t ask for.
She was laughing too loud to hear me.
Grasping the relationship between Feedback-Correction-Instruction-Coaching-Mentoring
Turnaround Toxic Leaders
Toxic leaders corrode teams.
Self-serving leaders drain momentum. Ignoring the problem feels easier in the moment. But downward pull is destructive. The solution starts with turnaround conversations.
Toxic leaders dominate environments.
How to have turnaround conversations with toxic leaders…
Time-Saving Secrets for Coaching Managers
Busy managers say they don’t have time to coach—but coaching is what employees want most.
The good news? Coaching saves time when done right. Learn 3 time-saving strategies and 10 powerful contrasts between coaching and traditional managers.
Stop doing more. Start doing what matters most.