Tag Archive: Feedback

How to Receive Feedback

The most important thing about feedback is the way it’s received. How to receive feedback: #1. Aspire to improve. Aspiration makes feedback desirable. “Tell me how to improve.” Poorly delivered feedback is useful… Continue reading

How to Become an Otherish Leader

It’s lonely at the top because leaders lack otherishness. Otherish leaders focus on the success and well-being of others. You’re lonely because: #1. You wear a mask. Masks prevent people from knowing you.… Continue reading

7 Rules for Giving Feedback to the Boss and Surviving to Tell About It

Few things in organizational life are more dangerous than speaking truth to power. But isolated leaders become arrogant, indulgent, and authoritarian. Incompetent leaders count on reluctance to maintain their position and power. As… Continue reading

Surgery Without Anesthesia

“My husband says a conversation with Dan is like surgery without anesthesia.” (During a birthday party for a long-time coaching client.) People don’t tell leaders the truth. They imagine what you want to… Continue reading

The Secret to Bringing Out the Best in Others

Support too little and challenge too much – you kick butt. People are stressed and discouraged. Challenge too little and support too much – you coddle. People are comfortable and sleepy. The secret… Continue reading

Garbage Stinks – How to Benefit from Praise, Criticism, and Failure

Don’t drag garbage from the last thing you did into the next thing you do. Learn and throw it out. Respond to the present with the future in mind. Past failure teaches you… Continue reading