How to change others?

He continued standing in his chair until the teacher’s aide firmly planted him in his seat. Defiantly, he glared. Tight lipped he spat, “You pushed me down on the outside but I’m still standing on the inside.”

There’s a difference between superficial conformity and authentic change. Great leaders create environments where authentic change is possible.

Change for the worse

Angry leaders change others for the worse by creating barriers.

Controlling leaders weaken others with their constant interference.

Passive leaders create passive people and fashion organizational cultures where mediocrity is tolerated, frustration is rampant, and bitterness takes root.

Generosity and change

The power of generosity is its lack of coercion. Essentially, you change yourself. Generosity invites change from the inside rather than forcing external conformity. Generosity side steps pressure and manipulation. It sets people free to experience substantive change.

Change agents:

  1. Give lavishly. The people that most powerfully enrich others don’t barter and make deals. They give without strings attached.
  2. Share information. In my opinion, protecting information is usually a sign of weakness, fear, and manipulation. Backstabbers hide information. Granted, regulated, proprietary, or personal information is meant to be private.
  3. Continually grow. Growing people grow others. Changing people change others.
  4. Share themselves. Leaders that share their personal journey of frailty to success create environments where people grow and change. Fakers only produce fakers that groan rather than grow.

Getting personal

I’m skeptical. When someone is generous, I wonder what they want. However, since beginning this online experiment called Leadership Freak, I’ve encountered generous people that are authentic change agents. Their generosity challenges my selfishness. Their generosity teaches me generosity. I’m slowly changing. They didn’t tell me to change they showed me the change.


How might generous leaders hold others to high standards and maintain organizational accountability?