Finding Freedom While Developing Leaders

This is the second post based on my conversation with Bob Burg, author of: “It’s Not About You.”

Leaders see in others what they don’t see in themselves; that can be frustrating. It’s frustrating to see potential in someone who doesn’t care as much as you. If you aren’t careful, it’s also arrogant because you don’t know all; you don’t see all.

“Leaders meet people where they are.” Bob explained that patience is about accepting people.

The allure of where you believe people could go – not where they are currently – interests you. Time is limited and you want to invest it, not squander it.

Don’t project.

Stop projecting and embrace humility. The potential you see in them may be a projection of your wishes for yourself.

You look at young leaders and see yourself. You see the mistakes you made and want to “save them;” to make them into a better you. Humility, on the other hand, says I’m not making you into a better me. You are reaching your potential, not mine.

Don’t attach.

Bob said you can avoid frustration if you avoid, “attachment.” I know attachment is an important word in Buddhist philosophy. I didn’t ask Bob if he was Buddhist. I interpreted the word attachment as too much ownership, too much responsibility.

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Attachment is tying your identity or success to another individual. It’s a formula for disappointment and disaster.

Celebrate them.

Rather than attaching, celebrate their potential not yours in them. It’s not about you.

Let them say no.

When I reach out to someone with potential, I watch for their response. Do they brighten up or sit back? Do they express interest? Do they respect me and their own opportunities? If yes, we move forward. If no, I continue encouraging them while backing off.

Part one of my conversation with Bob: “Bob Burg on Life and Leadership

Part three of my conversation with Bob: “Bob Burg on Becoming a Person of Value

Have you tried to develop someone who didn’t want to be developed? What did you learn?

How do you initiate a leadership development relationship with someone who has untapped potential?


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