Ready to fix feedback?  Then let’s go “kick some ask!”


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Leave a comment on this guest post by Tamra Chandler. This post is based on her latest book, Feedback (and Other Dirty Words) which is co-authored with Laura Dowling Grealish. 

(Deadline for eligibility is 6/23/2019)

(International winners will receive electronic versions.)

We’ve got feedback all wrong. And we’re recruiting you to help fix it.


Feedback – Clear and specific information that’s sought or extended for the sole intention of helping individuals or groups improve, grow, or advance.

We’re anchoring our feedback-fixing movement in the three fabulous F’s of Fairness, Focus, and Frequency. But this foundation means nothing without the collective efforts of all of us (you, me, your peers, your boss, and her boss, too!) to lead a seismic shift in how we perceive, engage in, and experience feedback.


The biggest shift you can make today is becoming a Seeker (of feedback). Seeking, not knowing. Learning, not telling.

Why be a Seeker?

  • LOWER THE FEAR: When you’re doing the asking, you control the topic, who’s in conversation, and the time and the place. This lowers the natural fear response not only for you, but also for those people you’re seeking feedback from.
  • FOCUS: When you’re seeking, you can hone in on what you need. Focus the conversation on what truly matters to you. This will bring you more valuable insights, and you’re far more likely to take it all in and learn from what you are hearing.
  • SHOW, DON’T TELL: When you start by seeking, others are likely to follow your lead. The best way to change behavior and start a movement is to go first!

Tamra in her own words. Tips for seeking feedback:

5 feedback seeking tips to get started:

Tip #1: Focus your ask – Seek what you need, and keep it targeted.

Tip #2: Ask in advance – Give them time to think and you’ll get better answers.

Tip #3: Increase your sources – More perspectives = better insights

Tip #4: Ask for noticing, not judgement – Simply ask for observations: What did you notice?

Tip #5: Don’t be afraid to ask for the good stuff – Identify and explore your superpowers. They matter most!

What are your feedback tips?

Tamra Chandler the CEO and founding partner of PeopleFirm LLC. Author and expert on the topic of feedback. Her latest book, Feedback (and Other Dirty Words) is co-authored with
Laura Dowling Grealish.