Grow and Give: Discovering the Path Forward
Purpose in life is an expression of three words, grow and give*. Being stuck happens when you stop growing and giving.
You learn to grow and give through action and self-reflection:
7 dangers of action without structured self-reflection:
- Busyness. Busyness isn’t productive unless you reflect.
- Inauthenticity. You become the victim of action when you neglect self-reflection.
- Anxiety. You struggle to know what life means.
- Drifting. You act without purpose and direction.
- Burnout. Pause and reflect before you throw your hands up in despair.
- Repetition. You repeat mistakes until you notice destructive patterns in your life.
- Dissatisfaction. You escape dissatisfaction by first noticing and acknowledging it. You don’t fight dissatisfaction; you transform it.
Reflect so you can grow and give:
Growth, purpose, and self-reflection are hippie talk when the only thing that matters is action.
If you asked Bob, the main character in The Vagrant, about his self-reflection practice he’d look at you like a cow looks at a new gate. Bob doesn’t have time for self-reflection, he’s too busy succeeding.
Reflect before action:
- How would you like to grow today?
- How would you like to give today?
- How do you want to influence people around you today?
- Based on your answer to question #3, how will you show up today?
Reflect after action:
Use the four reflection questions I listed above for reflection after action.
Begin gently if a reflection practice freaks you out.
- Write down one intention in the morning and check yourself throughout the day.
- Reflect on Saturday. I encourage you to reflect every day, but begin once a week if once a day gives you apoplexy.
- Read The Vagrant. You’ll find several self-reflection practices at the end.
Tip: Design your own reflection question. The above questions are just samples.
How has self-reflection helped you grow and give?
What are some self-reflection questions that enable people to grow and give?