Three conversations follow negative feedback; excuse, denial, and/or tell-me-more. Excuse-conversations blame. Everyone who says, “It’s not my fault,” subtly or directly says, “I’m not responsible for my negative behavior, they are.” Excuses are… Continue reading
The trouble with illusion is delusion. I woke up this morning disturbed at the subtlety of self-delusion. Deluded leaders believe they’re… Supportive but demanding, instead. Humble but in reality, arrogant. Listening when they’re… Continue reading
I lead with a hands-on type leader. I’m a hands-off. He’s a, “get things done type,” I’m a, “go with it type.” I thrive in ambiguity; too much frustrates him. The other day,… Continue reading
Challenge people! Fully prepared is boring. Wrong: “Who is ready for opportunities?” is the wrong question. Ready is overrated. You weren’t ready. Remember how you didn’t know? You see your skills but forget where they came from. Experience taught… Continue reading
My friends complain, “I waved but you didn’t wave back.” Or, “I spoke but you didn’t hear me.” Ever walk down the hall and not make eye contact with employees? If you’re oblivious, you’re oblivious. Second-rate leaders… Continue reading
Passion for excellence, demand to meet numbers, slow progress, and fierce competition drive managers to step in and “help.” Never help without asking, it’s meddling. Ask first; ask often. Don’t reserve, “How can… Continue reading
