Coaches open channels for conversation because talking is learning.
You learn by talking unless you’re defending yourself.
Thinking generates ideas. Speaking tests them.
What seems crazy in thought may lead to brilliance.
Learn how to become a person people talk to.
Defensive people resist growth. They deny, deflect, and justify.
Helpers receive insults. Leaders suffer disappointment.
Defensiveness protects self-image. Arguments threaten it.
How to Disarm Defensive People
Everyone has potential. But you don’t run a rescue mission. Forget about coaching the incompetent. Train them.
The more capable the person, the more valuable development.
Elite performers in every sector have coaches.
Coaching won’t compensate for lack of aspiration or talent.
How to spot the coachable?
Unintentional sabotage is still destructive. Lousy coaching personalities create confusion during development conversations. They use words like “coaching” but really mean instructing.
Don’t be:
Fix-It Freddy
Leaky Linda
Vague-asaurus Rex
Support-Me-Not Susan
Bad coaching isn’t a mistake. It’s a catastrophe.
Included here are 5 ways to improve your coaching.
Yesterday my wife said, “You drive weird.” In a professorial tone, I told her, “That’s judging, not observing.” She got instruction she didn’t ask for.
She was laughing too loud to hear me.
Grasping the relationship between Feedback-Correction-Instruction-Coaching-Mentoring
Toxic leaders corrode teams.
Self-serving leaders drain momentum. Ignoring the problem feels easier in the moment. But downward pull is destructive. The solution starts with turnaround conversations.
Toxic leaders dominate environments.
How to have turnaround conversations with toxic leaders…
