10 Ways to be Wide for Those Who Feel Superior

Nothing limits leaders more than believing they can succeed without others.

Superiority, masquerading as self-confidence, makes leaders look down on others. Marginalizing people limits their potential and yours.

People expand your leadership, if you let them.

exponential success requires others

Feeling superior reduces leadership.

Superiority – expressed by indifference, distrust, and ignorant judgement – blocks leadership potential.

Ignorance allows you to think you know more than you know.

Judging limits:

  1. Judging is a weak narrow leader’s attempt at feeling superior.
  2. Judging allows you to close your heart and mind.
  3. Judging gives you permission to ignore others.

Informed judging is essential to leadership. Snap-judgments are made by leaders who feel superior. 

Exponential success requires others.

10 ways to be wide:

Wideness – respecting and including others – expands leadership.

  1. Celebrate suggestions. “What else?” Suggestions irritate arrogance.
  2. Slow decision-making. Quick decisions exclude others. You may be right, but you end up alone, when you exclude others.
  3. Go with, not against, when exploring options. What if their insights add value? How might it work?
  4. Lean in, when you feel like pushing away.
  5. Honor candor. “Thanks for speaking your mind. What’s so important?”
  6. Invite people to challenge your ideas. Ideas are purified by challenge. What if you’re wrong?
  7. Don’t restrain those who share your values, vision, and mission. Release them.
  8. Talk much less. Two ears and one mouth isn’t enough. Imagine you have six or seven ears and one mouth. Feelings of superiority come out in lack of interest.
  9. Ask, “What am I missing?” Honor diversity by exploring it.
  10. Ask, “What matters to you right now?”

The next time you think a teammate doesn’t get it, ask yourself what you’re missing. Honor their perspective by paying attention to it.

You don’t have to agree with everyone to be wide, you just have to open up.

What are the subtle symptoms of feeling superior to others?

How might leaders address the subtleties of feeling superior to others?

**What is your evaluation of the opening statement of this post?**