How To Coach Frustrated Control Freaks
Experience suggests that leaders are control freaks.
You know you’re a controlling leader if:
- You’re ideas are always the best.
- Teammates have stopped offering suggestions.
- People constantly ask you questions.
- You spend your days signing off and giving permission.
- Your organization is stagnating.
4 coaching questions for frustrated control freaks:
- What responsibility would you like to let go, at least partially?
- What new responsibilities might you take up, if you let go of some current ones? (Note: The person you are coaching may wish to take up a new responsibility or spend more energy on a current one.)
- How important, on a scale of 1 to 10, is letting go of this responsibility? Personally? Organizationally?
- What are you doing when you are fulfilling that responsibility? Explore behaviors.
- Describe the behaviors associated with fulfilling that responsibility, specifically.
- What’s fulfilling about those behaviors? Frustrating?
- What makes you great at employing those behaviors?
From controlling to empowering:
Think about the behaviors you employ to fulfill a responsibility that you would like to let go. (Refer to responses to question 4 above.) Forget the responsibility itself.
- How might others become ready to take up what you’re ready to let go? How quickly? How could you cut that time in half?
- What needs to be true of others in order for you to let go? How can those things become reality?
- Which behaviors could you give to someone, this week? What needs to be in place to make that happen?
- How might you equip someone to engage in the behaviors that fulfill a responsibility you would like to let go? (Explore mentoring, coaching, or training.)
What will be true of you in six months, if you don’t let go of ______? If you do ______?
What would you like to do about that, this week?
What suggestions do you have for coaching frustrated control freaks?
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