Patterns That Served You Well in the Past

Warning: Life’s ruts start feeling like well-worn jeans. Every morning you slip into patterns that served you well in the past.

You need a kick in the pants to reignite the adventure.

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I said:

Sunday afternoon, I looked my wife in the eye and said, “What could I do to live a more meaningful life this week? I’ll do whatever you say.”

She said, “I need some time to think about it.”

Monday morning, before I left to visit a client in Philadelphia, she said, “I’m ready to answer your question. Are you going to do whatever I say?”

I tried to sound casual, “Yes, I’ll do whatever you say,” but it felt humbling. I confess that my pulse raised a little, although I tried to hide it.

“I want you to make a list of everything you do that someone else could do.”

She said:

Sunday, after lunch, my wife said, “What could I do to live a more meaningful life this week? I’ll do whatever you say.” I didn’t need to sleep on the answer.

A couple hours later, I asked, “Are you going to do whatever I say?”

She said, “Yes.”

“I’d like you to take at least fifteen minutes a day to reflect on your experiences in life and write three life lessons you have to offer the world.  Think about the good and the bad. Distill three things you’ve learned into three sentences.”


  1. You slip into ruts unless you shake things up once in awhile.
  2. The phrase, “I’ll do whatever you say,” changes the dynamic.
  3. “I’ll do whatever you say,” is humbling.
  4. I don’t trust as many people as I thought. Maybe I need to deepen some of my relationships?

Let me know if you’re willing to shake up your life by trying this experiment.

Read more: The Life Changing Experiment Anyone Can Do. (There are several options for limiting the question on that post.)

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