The Path to Self-Leadership Made Clear

If you feel it’s easy to lead yourself, you aren’t doing it.


Self-leadership: Pay attention to yourself.

#1. Listen to yourself.

What if the things that come out of your mouth are true expressions of who you are?

Spend a day monitoring your words and tone. What message are you sending?

If your words defined you, who are you?

#2. Consider what it’s like to listen to you.

Negative leaders believe they’re positive. I think I’m a positive person until I listen to the sewage spewing out of my mouth. Complaining is energy sucking poison.

Words are rudders. Life and leadership go in the direction of your speech. 

#3. Explore what’s it like to sit across the table from you.

Any expression of authenticity that stands aloof from others is blind arrogance.

You aren’t as pretty as you think and others aren’t as ugly.

  1. Hire a coach to perform a Narrative 360. This is an interview style 360 assessment, not a paper survey.
  2. Monitor your wake. Ships disturb the water everywhere they go. How do people feel about themselves after bouncing around on the waves you leave behind?
  3. Record a meeting you lead.

Others see you better than you see you. See yourself through the eyes of others before you develop yourself.

Self-leadership: Expect more from yourself than you expect from others.

Do everything you expect others to do, only more.

Do you expect others to practice generosity, deliver great results, get along, and not complain? Do it yourself!

Pay attention to frustration. Every frustration you have about others hints at new behaviors for you. Frustration goes wrong when it turns to blame.

Blind leaders appreciate their own strengths and focus on the weaknesses of others. Are you a leader who sees faults and weaknesses everywhere you look? You’re expecting more from others than you expect from yourself.

What is self-leadership?

How might leaders lead themselves?

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