Stop Asking Dangerous Questions Before the New Year
I think about the new year with a sense of urgency, even though its arrival is no surprise. Disappointments and successes come to mind. Then I ask myself, “What do I want to do next year?” I can’t get away from that question because everyone asks me. But it’s a dangerous question.
Doing stuff matters but it’s a soothing distraction, an obstacle to the life you aspire to enjoy.
Thinking about the new year:
Think about the new year in terms of becoming before you think about doing. The most important question to ask is, “Who do I aspire to become?” not, “What do I want to do?”. Begin with values.
Ask, “What’s important to me?” before you choose something to do. Always include ‘to me’ with the question. Don’t let others define your values.
The richest possible life is meaningful. Reflect on contribution. What contributions energize you?
Meaningful goals include doing things for and with others. Self-serving goals might be fun but can’t scratch your need to matter. It’s not how much you do, it’s how much you contribute that matters.
Pursue meaning, not happiness, to experience enduring fulfillment.
Think about the new year in terms of energy. Follow your energy. Forget about the things you’re supposed to do so you can identify things that energize your brain and bring rest to your spirit. You might make a list of things that energize you and look for patterns.
Reflect on values, contribution, meaning and energy before you ask the dangerous question, “What do I want to do next year?”.
Set goals that reflect the person you aspire to become.
Set goals that pull you forward. Things you dread lose their charm and turn into failures.
Who you become is more important than what you do.
What points of reflection serve you in this season?