Choose How You Show Up Before You Show Up
Strength sees opportunities. Weakness sees threats. You see the world the way you see yourself.
Self-perception shapes the way you show up.
How do you show up when your inner accuser is loud?
- Filled with self-doubt that causes second-guessing.
- Fearful of making mistakes.
- Worried about being judged.
- Obsessively analyzing your words.
- Avoiding topics that need exploration.
- Feeling inadequate or jealous.
- Defensive when receiving tough feedback.
How do you show up when you feel confident in yourself?
- Prepared to turn outward instead of focusing on yourself.
- Open to listen without defensiveness.
- Comfortable with others.
- Willing to address tough topics with a forward-facing orientation.
- Aware and respectful of boundaries both for ourselves and others.
- Trusting competent people to perform.
- Leaning into your strengths.
- Attractive to others (I’m not talking about physical beauty).
- Able to infuse confidence in others.
- Positive instead of fearful.
Choose how you show up:
Spend 1 minute visualizing how you want to show up before your next meeting.
- How does your best self begin the meeting?
- How do you look? Think about body language and facial expression.
- What do you do when someone tries to hijack the meeting?
- What is your orientation toward people? Toward planning? Toward decision-making?
- How do you feel about yourself when you’re interacting with people?
- How does your best self move the agenda forward?
- How do you see yourself ending the meeting?
Be specific. Think actions, words, facial expressions and vocal tone.
Practice a best-self-visualization in the morning and before significant encounters. At the end of the day record your observations on a piece of paper (Writing is thinking). If it’s useful, do it for 5 days.
How does the way we think about ourselves seep into behaviors and attitudes?