You sincerely want to help, but what if you employ strategies and habits that cause harm. Sincerity doesn’t erase incompetence. Portraits of lousy helpers: Overeager helper: When time allows, step back and let… Continue reading
The great temptation of leadership is giving answers instead of guidance. Experience makes answer-giving easy. But there’s an ego factor as well. It feels great to KNOW when others don’t. At first, giving… Continue reading
“I like long walks, especially when they are taken by people who annoy me.” Noel Coward, English Playright Three reasons talent becomes annoying: #1. They’re too much of something. People should be like… Continue reading
He said, “I knew you were going to ask. The answer is, ‘Yes.’” A commitment: He had committed to give one personal face-to-face affirmation everyday for two weeks. I thought it was a… Continue reading
Coddling is degrading because it tells people they’re incompetent. Pampering devalues strength. Over-protection is rejection. Stretch yourself if you want to grow. It’s not a stretch assignment if it doesn’t keep you… Continue reading
The issues you avoid morph into future-crushing gremlins. A surprising suggestion: I suggested a negative project to a coaching client who wants to take initiative when issues are stressful. I prefer projects that… Continue reading
