Traditional managers expect compliance. Coaching-managers expect engagement, creativity, responsibility, and ownership. People who’ve been controlled often prefer compliance over participation. “Just tell me what to do,” is a cop out. Some prefer being… Continue reading
The thing that irritates you about others is the thing you’re trying to change about them. “I’ve tried everything,” means you can’t figure out how to change someone. The more you try to… Continue reading
The more you think about what’s wrong, the more wrong you see. Your job isn’t fixing, correcting, and improving. It’s creating environments where others fix, correct, and improve. Criticism deflates. Approval energizes. Praise… Continue reading
Extraordinary strength in a person with a strong personality (SP) is a potent opportunity for advantage or destruction. Don’t dial back your strong personality. Choose when to let the tiger out. A CIO with an SP… Continue reading
The problem with strong personalities (SP’s) is their ability for good is matched by their ability to harm. All strong personalities, in some ways, are jerks. 12 problems with strong personalities: Don’t play well with others.… Continue reading
Wanting change – while thinking and acting the same – is frustrating futility. Trying to change people is the greatest futility of all. Coaching-leaders don’t change people, they have transformative conversations where people… Continue reading
