Why My Wife Swats Flies before Riding Bulls
My wife and I joke that she can’t walk out of the house without emptying the dishwasher. She takes care of small things before tackling big.
Detail-people swats flies before riding bulls.
Swatting flies frees my wife to concentrate on the big stuff. On the other hand, I jump on the bull quickly and leave the flies for later, if at all.
4 Ways to deal with fly swatters:
- Big-picture-thinkers need detail-people more than detail-people need big-picture-thinkers.
- Accept their need to swat flies. Detail-people function better after they kill a few flies. It doesn’t help to chide them.
- Understand their motivation. My wife empties the dishwasher, before we go out, for a very practical reason. She doesn’t want to deal with it later. Big-picture-people are great at leaving things till later.
- Deadlines help detail-people ignore flies. Time pressure allows detail-people to ride the bull sooner. They know how to get things done. But, if there’s time, detail-people enjoy killing a few small items before attacking a big one.
- Let detail people do what they do best, deal with details. Don’t complain about their strength.
- Admire and affirm their ability to get lots done. Detail-people finish stuff.
- Detail-people enjoy thinking big picture. But, too much big picture drives them crazy. They worry about getting it done.
Ride bulls before swatting flies, when it comes to running meetings.
“Let’s take care of a few small items, before we address this big issue,” means you’ll rush through important stuff at the end. Small stuff expands, sucks time, and distracts.
I used to feel frustrated that my wife emptied the dishwasher just before it was time to go out. Now I grab a dish and help, unless it’s the last one.
How can detail-people and big-picture-people maximize each other?