There Are Stupid Questions

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Who ever said there are no stupid questions was wrong. Drucker said, “The truly dangerous thing is asking the wrong questions.”

Your questions establish, limit, and maintain the focus of others.

A question: How many passes? (55 sec. video)

Wrong questions – wrong direction:

Questions control perceptionsTal Ben-Shahar, author and speaker at the World Business Form 2011 said, “Questions create reality by defining reality.”

Wrong questions deliver wrong answers that create wrong trajectories. Tal asked, “What if the only thing you ask is about what doesn’t work?”

  1. What went wrong?
  2. What isn’t working?
  3. What do we need to fix?

Questions are statements:

Leaders tell others what matters by the questions they ask. Each question below contains statements.

  1. How are you?
  2. What are you working on?
  3. How can I help?

Unguided passion and a misguided pursuit of excellence may motivate you to ask dead-end questions that create negative focus.

A comparison:

  1. “What should you have done,” is a backward facing criticism. Should have’s belittle sincere effort and past wisdom.
  2. “What can we do next time,” accomplishes the same objective while building rather than tearing down. It presses into a future of possibilities, together.

Stupid “why” questions:

Asking why someone did something suggests there’s a good reason. Why did you hit your sister? Why did you throw a rock through the window? What questions, in this context, are better than why questions.

Well-crafted questions create your future.

What are some examples of dead-end, stupid questions?

Can you transform a negative question into a positive?

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