How to Bring Out the Best
Bringing out your best is child’s play compared to bringing out their best.
Leaders who bring out the best in others make courage possible. Nothing meaningful happens without courage.
Everyone is still unlearning the necessary fear parents taught us. Leaders have the courage to develop courage in others.
Who before what:
Bringing out the best in others begins with “who” not “what.” Know who you’re dealing with, before thinking about what you want them to do. Are they…
Deep or shallow:
Some respond well to being thrown into the deep end. Throw them in. Others prefer the shallow end. They prefer to learn courage gradually.
In either case, successful leaders grow the courage muscles of others.
Bring out the best in others by knowing their past. The past directs the future.
- How did they responded to new assignments?
- What have they learned from failure?
- What motivated them in the past?
- Who did they mesh with?
- Who rubbed them the wrong way?
Bring out the best by knowing their heart. What are their values and aspirations. Are they working for advancement, for example.
You know what makes you tick.
Leaders know what makes them tick.
How can leaders bring out the best in others?
I actually hire leaders who can tell me about or that I know about a time when they were able to inspire others to reach their goals, to go beyond what they thought they could do or who they thought they were.
Leaders need to inspire other to greater limits, or help them remove the limitations.
“bringing out the best in others”
Spot on Dan! Isn’t that the core of what real leadership does and why all of us need great leaders. I believe it is.
Great post, Dan. Personally, I think this facet of leadership, ie bringing out the best in others, is much more challenging than it may look at first glance. There is no one size fits all solution, no template you can universally apply and no simple recipe you can follow that will give you the same positive results every time.
You certainly hit the nail on the head when you write “bring out the best by knowing their heart”. To know where someone’s heart is, you need to care. You need to take time to get to know them and in some cases that could take a long time. Remember the saying “still waters run deep”. You don’t want to miss a great opportunity or pass over a great talent just because there aren’t enough bells, whistles and shiny attention grabbers to show you where the greatest potential is!
Sometimes in today’s fast flying world we’re a little too swayed by the colourful noisemakers, but I always try to keep in mind that “attention is something you get, but respect is something you earn!”
Help people figure out their why, makes since since iwe are biologically set up that way. Trying it other ways is working against the way we were designed. Perfectly ok if you choose to try it that way just immeasurably more difficult to get the job done. Why work harder when smarter is available?
Figure out their why, that will supply the energy, then let them know your values and beliefs are the same as theirs and you got their back. Y’all are there together to help one another achieve a common goal.
When they get that they know they can trust you. When they trust u loyalty shows up.
Not rocket science just understanding a little biology and using your heart.
If u are not flourishing like me it quite possibly is not what you don’t know rather what you know that just ain’t so!
Finding and welcoming the good heart in others is leaderships essence. Seeing potentials in others and bring those potentials forward is (in my opinion) the greatest reward of leading, (..after all, anyone can find the bad heart! )
Great stuff, Dan. Yes, this is key, and always easier said than done.
Paul was right, it takes someone who cares, and listens – somone with sincere curiosity about others.
Curious people are good leaders.
I think you have touched on something that, for me at least, is where so many would-be leaders stumble. It is such a HUGE temptation — I suppose because it seems easier at first — to treat everyone the same way (this is very much along the lines of what Paul said earlier). How simple it would be for a leader if he/she could use the same “template” approach to bringing out the best in people. To be truly effective as a leader, it is imperative to know as much as possible about what makes your folks tick.
Leaders should share their vision with others. Provide the playing field for those who are willing to stretch.
Great post Dan.
Would love to know more on how to call out people’s real potential.
I was unclear about this one:
” Who did they mesh with?”
Could you pls explain.
love your posts try and read them every day and most of all trying to put them inro practice 🙂