7 Ways to Survive Dissatisfaction

The trouble with wanting more is disappointment with what you have and frustration with what you don’t have.

How you deal with lack of resources and falling short determines the direction and quality of your leadership.

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You aren’t a leader if all you think about is what you lack, what you don’t have, or how you’re falling short.

Negative jerks don’t:

  1. Celebrate progress.
  2. Honor effort.
  3. Provide room for development.


Press for more and:

  1. Work with what you have, not what you wish you had. You won’t get more until you use what you have. Dreaming gets in the way when it prevents progress. “Face reality as it is, not as it was, or as you wish it to be,” Jack Welch. Stopping wishing; start working.
  2. Focus on simple behaviors that align with goals. Begin having short one-on-ones in order to support and monitor progress, for example. Let go of the idea that dramatic progress is the result of dramatic behaviors.
  3. Honor dedication, commitment, and hard work. Honoring effort encourages more effort.
  4. Ask, “How can I help.” Disengaged leaders, who set high standards, demoralize the troops. Engaged leaders support teammates. The former CEO of Campbell’s, Doug Conant, made a career of asking, “How can I help.”
  5. Enjoy the process. Negative leaders are so consumed with where they’re going that they can’t enjoy where they are. People connect with leaders who are happy and pity those who aren’t.
  6. Rejuvenate once in awhile.
  7. Find points of gratitude.

The way you navigate tensions between now and not-yet determines the quality of your leadership.

What strategies enable leaders to find satisfaction even while they are dissatisfied?