From Tantrums to Leadership

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Image source by by Piotr Siedlecki

Weak, fearful leaders are like unrully two year olds. They create messes and throw tantrums. Undeveloped, incompetent leaders are “takers” who believe followers exist to serve them

Weak leaders take:

  1. Control. All micro-managers are fearful.
  2. Power. Weak leaders fill their need for power by dis-empowering others.
  3. Energy. Immature leaders suck energy rather than give it.


Six foot, two hundred pound, two year olds are dangerous, destructive, and deadly. Imagine a full grown adult kicking and screaming like an angry toddler. Scary!

Your inner two year old:

When you’re stressed, insecure or exhausted, you’re inner two year old screams to get out. He cries, “Pay attention to me.” Wise leaders listen to their needy, selfish, inner two year old.

Never ignore a screaming two year old.

Screaming two year olds have unmet needs. It’s not pretty but scream gets the job done.


Unfed two year olds get grumpy. Nurture the “little person” inside before the little brat destroys you and others. Never ignore an agitated inner two year old. 

Ignored needs grow.

Constant giving creates empty cups. Take care of you so you can take care of others.

Rockabye baby:

  1. Turn off electronic devices.
  2. Let go of something.
  3. Share inner secrets with someone you trust.
  4. Walk with a friend.
  5. Hold hands. Better yet, hug.
  6. Read a book for pleasure.
  7. Do what you want to do.
  8. Say, “No.”
  9. Write an “I’m thankful for _____.” list.
  10. Take a nap.
  11. Pray.
  12. Complete several small tasks.

Exhausted leaders are fearful leaders. Vince Lombardi said, “Fatigue makes cowards of us all.” Re-energize you in order to energize them.

Recharge before you become totally dischared.

You aren’t the energizer bunny.

When do you know it’s time to re-charge?

How do you re-charge your batteries?

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