The Most Powerful Thing About You

“I have a picture of myself from when I was about two years old. It shows me with a bowed head and stooped shoulders, in despair, peering through sad eyes that wondered what I was doing in this world …” Shirzad Charmine.

A surprising quote from a bestselling book titled, “Positive Intelligence,” wouldn’t you think? If you look between the lines and in the shadows of his book, you realize Shirzad is telling his own story, even though he only shares tiny slivers here and there.

Your power:

The most powerful thing about you is your story.
But don’t talk about yourself all the time; you’ll be a bore.

Ineffective story-tellers:

  1. See how great I …
  2. See how much better …
  3. See what I’ve …

I asked Shirzad how and when he decides to share his story.

I don’t tell my story when:

  1. I’m worried about how I look.
  2. I’m trying to be impressive.
  3. I’m thinking, “Look how cool I am.”

“My ‘saboteurs’ are talking when I’m focused on protecting and serving me, exclusively.” (List of saboteurs)

I choose to tell my story when:

  1. I’m serving others.
  2. I feel compassion.
  3. I want to make a difference.

“I fully trust my instincts when I’m focused on serving.” Serving is the voice of our “sage”.

The sage:

  1. Explores with great curiosity.
  2. Empathizes with self and others.
  3. Innovates and creates.
  4. Navigates a path that aligns with deeper values.
  5. Activates; takes decisive action.

Your story:

Publicly share your journey through struggles and challenges.

Share lessons from failure but avoid being a victim. Your journey through; draws, inspires, educates, and challenges.

Bonus: Keep your current failures – where there’s no progress at all – between you and close friends. That’s your private story.

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When and how do you share your story?